Friday, September 27, 2013

I Was Wrong

"I was wrong."


How frequently do you hear that? I don't hear it very often. It seems like no one wants to say it. It's usually in the statement "I admit I was wrong." Few want to admit to a mistake. Why is that?

Pride? That shouldn't be the case. Will you ever be rewarded for upholding such pride? Pride can likely lead to something bad. Or the person may think they're genuinely right. Can you ever doubt your first ideas? Can't you be edited? Accept you may not have all the facts or know the true feelings and motivation behind each disagreement. The emotion arguments produce the most is anger. Anger makes you assert your point without taking anything else into account. That certainly won't get you anywhere. A person may stop speaking to you because they feel there's no reasoning to be done.

I invariably have the desire to fix things. I'm always hoping the other person feels the same way. It's difficult to know what to say when the other person just won't budge. Friendships I never thought I had to affirm end. I never stop thinking about what I could have done differently.

This is the little bit I've learned -
Do whatever you can to preserve the friendship. Don't deny any fault of your own. There's nothing wrong in taking a fall yourself.